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Monday, January 2, 2012
2011 in Review: Some things I learned about Nayesha A. Pruitt Part II
Yesterday I started a list of the things that I learned about myself. You can check it out here before you read this one...
11. Working, being a mother/wife, and going to school is definitely possible.
After almost a year of being at home with my son, I started working and going to school at the same time. Whew! It has definitely been an experience, but I wouldn't trade it for the world, and I know that I will be able to tell my children that they can achieve all of their dreams, not just with words, but by example.
12. I don't need to explain everything to everyone.
Sometimes I've felt that in order for people to "get" me, that I need to automatically explain every decision that I make. I've especially felt this way when I tell someone something about my life and get a confused look in response. Like I said before, not everyone is going to get me.
13. I am extremely blessed.
I celebrated both my son's first birthday and my third year of marriage in November. I also have been blessed to have such a supportive family. My mother, grandmother, friends, husband, sisters and mother-in-love are some of the most awesome people that I could have been blessed with the ability to call family.
14. The past is the past for a reason. Learn from the mistakes, but don't hold on to any of it.
I've realized that alot of my extended family (as well as immediate) live in the past. They talk about the good times, their faces light up when they talk about a moment in their lives where they felt they were on top of the world, but in the present, they are lost. I refuse to just exist or get by, to be subjected to only a certain way of life because I don't want more for myself. Too many dreams have not been brought to fruition. My children will know what it's like to have dreams and go for them wholeheartedly.
15. Blaming my parents for what they did or didn't do is for the birds.
I'm almost 30 years old, and in the past year I have heard multiple people (older than me, I might add) say that they have failed at various aspects of their lives because of something their parents failed to teach them. Really? My mom didn't teach me how to properly manage money, but I've learned. My dad didn't show me how a man was supposed to love his children or treat his wife, but I learned what I should and shouldn't accept from a man, both by trial and error and through observation. I just cringe when I hear people blame their parents. To a certain extent, yes, our parents shape us into the people we become, by what they do and don't do, but at some point personal accountability has to come into play.
16. I will never make everyone happy.
This one is pretty self explanatory.
17. Family isn't relative.
Just because I share blood with someone doesn't make them my family. Biologically related, yes, but if there is no relationship, there just isn't a reason to call them family. I have plenty of family that I share DNA with, as well as the ones with which I don't. Either way, you know who you are, and I wouldn't trade you for anything.
18. I will never make everyone happy.
Had to reiterate that one for myself.
19. I'm my worst critic.
My time in grad school so far has really taught me that I need to give myself a break. There have been plenty of times when I thought that my work was sub par, only to get a perfect score on various assignments.
20. I must work on my seriously delayed sense of urgency.
When it comes to the things that I want to do and work, I'm on it. Those things that I know I have to do are another story. I'm workin' on it...
21. I used to care what others thought about me, especially certain people that I share DNA with, but now I could care less.
These folks have neither a heaven nor hell to put me in, nor have they made any type of significant contribution to my life (and I'm not talking about money). I should in no way rely on their opinions when they won't be there with me when I'm reaping all of the rewards of my hard work and dedication.
Have you learned anything about yourself in the last year? Do you see anything in my list that resembles your life? What do you do to get through your own obstacles?
Sunday, January 1, 2012
2011 In review: Some things that I learned about Nayesha A. Pruitt Part I
There are alot of things learned in the past year, some of them funny, some sad, and some just plain asinine. Either way it goes, here's a list of things yours truly learned in the year 2011...
1. You can want better for others, but if they don't want it for themselves, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
This is a REALLY hard one for me. If you are truly someone that I care about, I definitely want you to succeed in everything that you do. What I've realized is that some folks are just stubborn, and no matter how persuasive I can be, sometimes I just need to leave it alone. Either they'll have their own epiphany or they won't.
2. There will be times that the choices that others make just won't make sense.
This kinda goes along with the previous learned lesson. What seems logical to me just doesn't hold the same kind of weight with others. I am growing as a person and learning to respond to things differently, which leads to my next point...
3. There is absolutely nothing wrong with emotions, but when making decisions, my emotions must be put on hold.
I'm just a very emotional person by nature. I cry when I'm upset, happy, all that jazz. In the past, I have let my emotions take over my judgement and handled situations horribly, instead of taking a moment to regroup and really think about what I needed to do. I've definitely learned--by watching others as well as in my own personal experiences--that emotion in the absence of logic is absolutely detrimental to my well being.
4. I've got to have me time.
As a mother, wife, student, friend, and all around awesome person, I can get caught up in taking care of everyone but myself. By the time I think of me, I'm burned out and all I want to do is put my head on a pillow. Rest is necessary, but I also need time to recharge, whether it be at the gym, drinks with friends, or just a quiet drive to nowhere in particular.
5. I've got to be careful who I call friend.
I've done alot of self evaluation regarding the company I've kept in the past, and I realize that some folks to which I gave the title of "friend" were no more than acquaintances. At the same time, I recognize that people grow and go in different directions, and sometimes this changes the people that you hang out with, but there are other people who just really didn't belong in your circle in the first place. I don't expect to talk to people everyday, but there are those that, no matter where our lives have taken us have remained permanent fixtures in my life. There are others who have always been selfish and self serving, and those are the ones that have been eliminated. Just like in my professional life, I will make more than one attempt to reach out, but I'd be a dummy to continue to contact you if you never call back or take some initiative to call me. If you've blamed the failure of our relationship on my marriage, yet haven't reached out to call me since before I even said "I do," I'm probably talking about you.
6. No matter what I do, my son is going to find a way to put his hands down my shirt and squeeze. If you're a woman and you hold him, he will do this to you as well.
He's one years old, hasn't been breast fed in months, but the boy loves the mammary glands.
Don't be fooled by this handsome face and big brown eyes. This boy is a ninja when it comes to getting in a woman's shirt. I pray that he grows out of it soon...
7. I don't myself enough credit.
I'm pretty awesome, bottom line. It has taken me almost 29 years to realize this, but I'm sure of it now. You can't convince me of anything differently, so please don't try.
8. All of the things that I want, I can have. All the things that I want to do, I can.
I get caught up in the thought of a thing so much some times that I never execute the plans to reach my goals or obtain the things that I want. My brain is wired to think, examine, and re-examine just in case I missed something. It has kept me from plenty, but not anymore.
9. Everyone doesn't have to "get" me.
Not everyone understands me, and that's cool. I don't always understand myself. Not everyone is going to understand my dreams or the journey that I take in order to achieve those dreams, and that's cool as well.
10. Those that do get me can't always go with me.
No matter how much I succeed and grow, not everyone can go with me. It's not because I don't want them to go, sometimes they just don't belong on the same path as me, no matter how much I want them to be. They may have their own path, or they may need to pave that path for themselves.
I'm going to stop here, as this post turned out being longer than I expected. Check in tomorrow for Part II of 2011 in review...
1. You can want better for others, but if they don't want it for themselves, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
This is a REALLY hard one for me. If you are truly someone that I care about, I definitely want you to succeed in everything that you do. What I've realized is that some folks are just stubborn, and no matter how persuasive I can be, sometimes I just need to leave it alone. Either they'll have their own epiphany or they won't.
2. There will be times that the choices that others make just won't make sense.
This kinda goes along with the previous learned lesson. What seems logical to me just doesn't hold the same kind of weight with others. I am growing as a person and learning to respond to things differently, which leads to my next point...
3. There is absolutely nothing wrong with emotions, but when making decisions, my emotions must be put on hold.
I'm just a very emotional person by nature. I cry when I'm upset, happy, all that jazz. In the past, I have let my emotions take over my judgement and handled situations horribly, instead of taking a moment to regroup and really think about what I needed to do. I've definitely learned--by watching others as well as in my own personal experiences--that emotion in the absence of logic is absolutely detrimental to my well being.
4. I've got to have me time.
As a mother, wife, student, friend, and all around awesome person, I can get caught up in taking care of everyone but myself. By the time I think of me, I'm burned out and all I want to do is put my head on a pillow. Rest is necessary, but I also need time to recharge, whether it be at the gym, drinks with friends, or just a quiet drive to nowhere in particular.
5. I've got to be careful who I call friend.
I've done alot of self evaluation regarding the company I've kept in the past, and I realize that some folks to which I gave the title of "friend" were no more than acquaintances. At the same time, I recognize that people grow and go in different directions, and sometimes this changes the people that you hang out with, but there are other people who just really didn't belong in your circle in the first place. I don't expect to talk to people everyday, but there are those that, no matter where our lives have taken us have remained permanent fixtures in my life. There are others who have always been selfish and self serving, and those are the ones that have been eliminated. Just like in my professional life, I will make more than one attempt to reach out, but I'd be a dummy to continue to contact you if you never call back or take some initiative to call me. If you've blamed the failure of our relationship on my marriage, yet haven't reached out to call me since before I even said "I do," I'm probably talking about you.
6. No matter what I do, my son is going to find a way to put his hands down my shirt and squeeze. If you're a woman and you hold him, he will do this to you as well.
He's one years old, hasn't been breast fed in months, but the boy loves the mammary glands.
Don't be fooled by this handsome face and big brown eyes. This boy is a ninja when it comes to getting in a woman's shirt. I pray that he grows out of it soon...
7. I don't myself enough credit.
I'm pretty awesome, bottom line. It has taken me almost 29 years to realize this, but I'm sure of it now. You can't convince me of anything differently, so please don't try.
8. All of the things that I want, I can have. All the things that I want to do, I can.
I get caught up in the thought of a thing so much some times that I never execute the plans to reach my goals or obtain the things that I want. My brain is wired to think, examine, and re-examine just in case I missed something. It has kept me from plenty, but not anymore.
9. Everyone doesn't have to "get" me.
Not everyone understands me, and that's cool. I don't always understand myself. Not everyone is going to understand my dreams or the journey that I take in order to achieve those dreams, and that's cool as well.
10. Those that do get me can't always go with me.
No matter how much I succeed and grow, not everyone can go with me. It's not because I don't want them to go, sometimes they just don't belong on the same path as me, no matter how much I want them to be. They may have their own path, or they may need to pave that path for themselves.
I'm going to stop here, as this post turned out being longer than I expected. Check in tomorrow for Part II of 2011 in review...
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Love is...
So many people claim to know what love is. Here's some responses I've gotten lately...
*True love =you can eat off my plate and I won't kill you (I kinda agree with that one)
*True love is spending time apart and yearning to be with that person. You're counting the time till you can see them again.
*True love is not using a condom (yeah, I've heard someone say that).
*True love is spending my money on you
I believe in true love...the type of love where you spend all your time thinking about someone...you can't help but find a way to talk about them in every conversation you have...you can live without them, but you sure as hell don't want to...your heart yearns to be with that person, no matter if you just saw them ten minutes ago...no matter how much time passes, you find more reasons why you love them...you try to stay mad and it never works...encouraging them to be the best person they can be...helping them reach their goals and achieve their dreams...I believe in love, true love...that type of love that makes your whole day go wrong when that person is not near you or you can't hear their voice...when no matter how long you've been with them, the love always seems new and fresh.
I have been blessed to find my soulmate, my help meet in my husband. Not many people can say that the person they have married is the person they're supposed to be with. I find this sad and downright unacceptable. People marry for so many reasons, but few are the right ones.
For the most part, I believe that the descriptions of true love above(minus the one about the condom...don't get me started on that one) are all very accurate. Some may question the money one, but I'll explain...
My husband and I have had multiple conversations about money and relationships. Before we got married, talking about money was always an uncomfortable subject for me (it still kinda is). What my husband (boyfriend at the time) explained to me was that I was his woman, and anything I needed, he was there to provide. I told him how uncomfortable I was talking about money, and he told me that I needed to get over it. I told him about a friend whose boyfriend had told her "Don't you know I love you? I wouldn't be spending all my money on you and giving you stuff if I didn't love you!"
At first, the words of my friend's significant other bothered me. How can he equate his love with money and possessions? I thought. I shared this with my boo. He then explained to me something that made perfect sense. He told me that where a man's heart is, that's where his money is as well. A man, he said, won't spend signifcant amounts of money on just some woman. Yeah he might take someone out to dinner or a movie or something, but that isn't significant. When a man starts dropping copious amounts of money on a woman, that woman is what he loves. His money goes where his heart is. It makes sense!!!
Well here we are married, in love, and open as hell about everything, and I still don't like talking about money. I've gotten a little bit better than before, but I still cringe a little at the subject. He tells me to get over it, and I suppose I will at some point, but for now....
BACK TO TRUE LOVE!!!!
I'm out. Work is over, and I'm going to see my man!!!
This song describes everything I feel for my man!!! I only wish everyone got to know this feeling...
Point of it All, Anthony Hamilton
Lyrics:
I can't stay away from you too long\
Even if I do I always call
Check in on you, make sure you're okay
Be the one to brighten up your day
And the point of it all
Is I love you
You know I love you baby
My days seem long whenever we're apart
It´s like someone has thrown away my heart
You´re a major part of my life
And no matter what the storm may bring
I´m fine with you,
And the point of it all
Is I love you
And the reason for it all
Is I love you
O I love
O I love you
O my love
I can´t stay away too long
I can´t stay away from you baby
Don´t wanna be without you
I need you
O why don´t you stay
Around for awhile
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
Ohhohh, and the reason for it all
And the point of it all
Is that I love you
Yeah, I love you
Whenever we're apart
It damn near starves my heart
And I don´t ever want to be apart
*True love =you can eat off my plate and I won't kill you (I kinda agree with that one)
*True love is spending time apart and yearning to be with that person. You're counting the time till you can see them again.
*True love is not using a condom (yeah, I've heard someone say that).
*True love is spending my money on you
I believe in true love...the type of love where you spend all your time thinking about someone...you can't help but find a way to talk about them in every conversation you have...you can live without them, but you sure as hell don't want to...your heart yearns to be with that person, no matter if you just saw them ten minutes ago...no matter how much time passes, you find more reasons why you love them...you try to stay mad and it never works...encouraging them to be the best person they can be...helping them reach their goals and achieve their dreams...I believe in love, true love...that type of love that makes your whole day go wrong when that person is not near you or you can't hear their voice...when no matter how long you've been with them, the love always seems new and fresh.
I have been blessed to find my soulmate, my help meet in my husband. Not many people can say that the person they have married is the person they're supposed to be with. I find this sad and downright unacceptable. People marry for so many reasons, but few are the right ones.
For the most part, I believe that the descriptions of true love above(minus the one about the condom...don't get me started on that one) are all very accurate. Some may question the money one, but I'll explain...
My husband and I have had multiple conversations about money and relationships. Before we got married, talking about money was always an uncomfortable subject for me (it still kinda is). What my husband (boyfriend at the time) explained to me was that I was his woman, and anything I needed, he was there to provide. I told him how uncomfortable I was talking about money, and he told me that I needed to get over it. I told him about a friend whose boyfriend had told her "Don't you know I love you? I wouldn't be spending all my money on you and giving you stuff if I didn't love you!"
At first, the words of my friend's significant other bothered me. How can he equate his love with money and possessions? I thought. I shared this with my boo. He then explained to me something that made perfect sense. He told me that where a man's heart is, that's where his money is as well. A man, he said, won't spend signifcant amounts of money on just some woman. Yeah he might take someone out to dinner or a movie or something, but that isn't significant. When a man starts dropping copious amounts of money on a woman, that woman is what he loves. His money goes where his heart is. It makes sense!!!
Well here we are married, in love, and open as hell about everything, and I still don't like talking about money. I've gotten a little bit better than before, but I still cringe a little at the subject. He tells me to get over it, and I suppose I will at some point, but for now....
BACK TO TRUE LOVE!!!!
I'm out. Work is over, and I'm going to see my man!!!
This song describes everything I feel for my man!!! I only wish everyone got to know this feeling...
Point of it All, Anthony Hamilton
Lyrics:
I can't stay away from you too long\
Even if I do I always call
Check in on you, make sure you're okay
Be the one to brighten up your day
And the point of it all
Is I love you
You know I love you baby
My days seem long whenever we're apart
It´s like someone has thrown away my heart
You´re a major part of my life
And no matter what the storm may bring
I´m fine with you,
And the point of it all
Is I love you
And the reason for it all
Is I love you
O I love
O I love you
O my love
I can´t stay away too long
I can´t stay away from you baby
Don´t wanna be without you
I need you
O why don´t you stay
Around for awhile
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
And the point of it all
Ohhohh, and the reason for it all
And the point of it all
Is that I love you
Yeah, I love you
Whenever we're apart
It damn near starves my heart
And I don´t ever want to be apart
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