1. You can want better for others, but if they don't want it for themselves, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
This is a REALLY hard one for me. If you are truly someone that I care about, I definitely want you to succeed in everything that you do. What I've realized is that some folks are just stubborn, and no matter how persuasive I can be, sometimes I just need to leave it alone. Either they'll have their own epiphany or they won't.
2. There will be times that the choices that others make just won't make sense.
This kinda goes along with the previous learned lesson. What seems logical to me just doesn't hold the same kind of weight with others. I am growing as a person and learning to respond to things differently, which leads to my next point...
3. There is absolutely nothing wrong with emotions, but when making decisions, my emotions must be put on hold.
I'm just a very emotional person by nature. I cry when I'm upset, happy, all that jazz. In the past, I have let my emotions take over my judgement and handled situations horribly, instead of taking a moment to regroup and really think about what I needed to do. I've definitely learned--by watching others as well as in my own personal experiences--that emotion in the absence of logic is absolutely detrimental to my well being.
4. I've got to have me time.
As a mother, wife, student, friend, and all around awesome person, I can get caught up in taking care of everyone but myself. By the time I think of me, I'm burned out and all I want to do is put my head on a pillow. Rest is necessary, but I also need time to recharge, whether it be at the gym, drinks with friends, or just a quiet drive to nowhere in particular.
5. I've got to be careful who I call friend.
I've done alot of self evaluation regarding the company I've kept in the past, and I realize that some folks to which I gave the title of "friend" were no more than acquaintances. At the same time, I recognize that people grow and go in different directions, and sometimes this changes the people that you hang out with, but there are other people who just really didn't belong in your circle in the first place. I don't expect to talk to people everyday, but there are those that, no matter where our lives have taken us have remained permanent fixtures in my life. There are others who have always been selfish and self serving, and those are the ones that have been eliminated. Just like in my professional life, I will make more than one attempt to reach out, but I'd be a dummy to continue to contact you if you never call back or take some initiative to call me. If you've blamed the failure of our relationship on my marriage, yet haven't reached out to call me since before I even said "I do," I'm probably talking about you.
6. No matter what I do, my son is going to find a way to put his hands down my shirt and squeeze. If you're a woman and you hold him, he will do this to you as well.
He's one years old, hasn't been breast fed in months, but the boy loves the mammary glands.
Don't be fooled by this handsome face and big brown eyes. This boy is a ninja when it comes to getting in a woman's shirt. I pray that he grows out of it soon...
7. I don't myself enough credit.
I'm pretty awesome, bottom line. It has taken me almost 29 years to realize this, but I'm sure of it now. You can't convince me of anything differently, so please don't try.
8. All of the things that I want, I can have. All the things that I want to do, I can.
I get caught up in the thought of a thing so much some times that I never execute the plans to reach my goals or obtain the things that I want. My brain is wired to think, examine, and re-examine just in case I missed something. It has kept me from plenty, but not anymore.
9. Everyone doesn't have to "get" me.
Not everyone understands me, and that's cool. I don't always understand myself. Not everyone is going to understand my dreams or the journey that I take in order to achieve those dreams, and that's cool as well.
10. Those that do get me can't always go with me.
No matter how much I succeed and grow, not everyone can go with me. It's not because I don't want them to go, sometimes they just don't belong on the same path as me, no matter how much I want them to be. They may have their own path, or they may need to pave that path for themselves.
I'm going to stop here, as this post turned out being longer than I expected. Check in tomorrow for Part II of 2011 in review...
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